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The future is far away and scary, but today is lovely.

Adrian H. Wood, PhD


Sharing Truth

Monday, February 27, 2017 Adrian H. Wood Comments (0)
Sharing Truth

Sharing Truth It's not so easy, this sharing of truth. Every aspect of speaking this weekend, other than accepting the invitation, was as much a labor of love as I have ever known. As close to birthing and raising children minus the counting of fingers and toes. I had absolutely no idea what would be required in contemplation, mindfulness, remembering, reading, and writing for my talk, an hour talk. Truly, I hadn't thrown so much of my whole self into anything of this magnitude for, ..

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Tokens of Kindness

Sunday, February 26, 2017 Adrian H. Wood Comments (0)
Tokens of Kindness

Kindness travels with the simplest of things. Interactions, smiles shared, an embrace, a nice doorman. This weekend, kindness washed over me and circled my inadequate self and I latched on to the gestures that drifted my way. Real life overflows with them, though so often we forget to notice. A doorman at the Renaissance (https://www.facebook.com/RenaissanceRaleighHotel/) walked quite a ways to help with my bags and inquired about our weekend plans. When I shared that I was speakin ..

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Adventure

Friday, February 24, 2017 Adrian H. Wood Comments (0)
Adventure

It may not sound like an adventure for most, but for me, it is as much of one as my summer in Swaziland over twenty years ago. This time, I'm just going to Raleigh, a hop, skip and a jump from here, as my mom says. Staying at a fancy hotel with her and a friend and speaking at St. Michael's (https://www.facebook.com/St-Michaels-Episcopal-Church-112778177579/) on Saturday morning. It is a dream come true, though not a dream I even knew I had. I have always tried to not talk too much ..

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The Boy Who Sleeps

Thursday, February 23, 2017 Adrian H. Wood Comments (1)
The Boy Who Sleeps

Most evenings, he falls asleep like this, pressed up against me and on our bed. I've always relished my night space. Perhaps three under three left me desperate for physical and emotional freedom in the evenings. Things changed with the boy who sleeps. My last little perhaps, my son with the special needs, my three year old who goes to public school three full days a week, all qualifiers for access to my once sovereign domain. My heart has changed with his birth and the unfolding of ..

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Changing of A Boy

Wednesday, February 22, 2017 Adrian H. Wood Comments (0)
Changing of A Boy

He's changing, not quite every day I notice something different. He's changing, today he showered and dressed nicely and I found him splayed on his bed doing his homework for Lost Colony Cotillion (https://www.facebook.com/lostcolonycotillion/). He's changing, those pudgy baby feet that I loved to paint and capture on paper are longer than my own now. He's changing, his smooth skin has the slightest smattering of bumps and he examines them ever so closely. He's chang ..

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Playing Catch Up

Friday, February 17, 2017 Adrian H. Wood Comments (0)
Playing Catch Up

It's a game that sounds fun in theory, but I've decided it's more liken to a deep dark rabbit hole. Special needs parents know this cyclical game better than anyone, particularly families like ours. Amos is three and his extra special needs have unfolded slowly, no diagnosis at birth, no script of what to expect, just a darling baby turned toddler now preschooler whose milestones have largely remained out of reach. Catching up has eluded Amos and so, our life as a special needs family h ..

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Perfection

Thursday, February 16, 2017 Adrian H. Wood Comments (2)
Perfection

Nobody's perfect. Life is full of imperfection, cohesive with each and every day, yet we long for perfection. Many of us yearn and seek and wallow in the quest for that which is just beyond our grasp. It is, you know. Nobody nor nothing is perfect and yet, I kept forgetting until I was introduced to the boy named Amos. From the very beginning, perfect wasn't a term that would have graced his sweet fuzzy head . No, he had a couple imperfections at birth, nothing serious we though ..

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Normal

Wednesday, February 15, 2017 Adrian H. Wood Comments (0)
Normal

"He looks normal," she said. It was supposed to be kind, I think. My silence evidently propelled more words and so, next came, "You know, he doesn't look special needs. I couldn't even tell." I think I pointed out that his behavior was a possible indication. In that moment, he was scooping out dirt and fake moss from the gigantic planters surrounding the indoor pool of which he refused to enter. Normal. What does that even mean?Truthfully, it's harder that his special needs are a b ..

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What Is A Proper Apology?

Thursday, February 09, 2017 Adrian H. Wood Comments (4)
What Is A Proper Apology?

I offer this letter from UNC (https://www.facebook.com/unchealthcare/) as an example of an apology. I've had it nearly a week and read it dozens of times as I've pondered if perhaps it's just me that is at fault. I've decided it's not, but I am open to kind criticism. I'll explain why I find fault with this apology. And let me say that I find no fault with the letter writer, she was honest and truthful in offering the ridiculousness that two doctors provided. The content is the problem, ..

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My Dad

Wednesday, February 08, 2017 Adrian H. Wood Comments (2)
My Dad

One night with my parents and I am never left disappointed. 1. How long is it? The news is about to come on. I asked my dad if he wanted to hear me practice my speech. 2. You need to receprocate. He was right, paying back a kindness though I pointed out it may be better to reciprocate and he said, "Yeah, that too." 3. I just order whatever she orders. This is a new level of retirement and then he follows with, two minutes later, "what did I order?" 4. Is Blair ..

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