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Tales Of An Educated Debutante

on life, loss and the joy that rules the day.


 
 
 
 
 




 
The future is far away and scary, but today is lovely.

Adrian H. Wood, PhD


Holidays Meet Autism

Saturday, April 15, 2017 Adrian H. Wood Comments (0)
Holidays Meet Autism

I'm no expert. After all, I've yet to have one holiday with autism as my friend except for Siblings Day and we all know that is a bunch of malarkey even if it does get my goat emotionally. No, Easter is my first rodeo and it's not officially until tomorrow, though today was the egg hunt. What's more traditional and all-American than hunting for plastic eggs filled with jelly beans and malted milk balls? Not much, I'm thinking. We've done this particular hunt for several years now in Key Bisc ..

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When I See You

Friday, April 14, 2017 Adrian H. Wood Comments (0)
When I See You

When I see you, I don't see autism staring back at me. When I see you, my foolish self swells with the good kind of pride. When I see you, my heart self smiles at every bit of your long legged person. When I see you, my mindful self often wonders what you're thinking. When I see you, my listening self imagines how it would sound to hear words falling from your mouth. When I see you, my questioning self wonders if you're truly happy. When I see you, my hopeful sel ..

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By the Bay

Thursday, April 13, 2017 Adrian H. Wood Comments (0)
By the Bay

By the bay, he studies the schools of fish skimming the surface. By the bay, he peers over the edge and chortles at the manatee gulping greedily from the hose. By the bay, he closes his eyes as the wind ruffles his hair and contentment washes over his very soul. By the bay, he sways and remembers what it's like to be free. By the bay, he gazes into the sea and watches the pelicans dive below the surface. By the bay, he stares into the abyss of blues, water and sky  ..

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What I Want You To Know About Autism

Thursday, April 13, 2017 Adrian H. Wood Comments (0)
What I Want You To Know About Autism

1. It's not a thing. I thought it was before it was a label tossed on my son, but it's not. 2. My child is normal. He's not the r-word, he's not handicapped, he's not special needs, he's just a little kid with blue eyes and a bright smile that does have extra special needs and autism. 3. It's not a death sentence. Cancer is something we should detest, but autism, I don't think so. 4. It's a puzzle piece. Each of us make up a perfect puzzle and of course, our ..

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This Is Autism

Sunday, April 02, 2017 Adrian H. Wood Comments (10)
This Is Autism

Adrian, meet autism. Autism, meet Adrian. I've never really minded you, you know. I was writing a story about Julia, praising the new character with autism on Sesame Street, the very morning of the day that we were introduced. The day before, Al Roker shared that you were part of his family too and truthfully, I thought that was pretty neat. It was neat until you jumped ship and got ahold of my family. We were doing just fine on our own, therapy plans, a great classroom and now your pre ..

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Grieving A Diagnosis

Friday, March 31, 2017 Adrian H. Wood Comments (6)
Grieving A Diagnosis

I had no idea it would feel like this, no relief, no weight lifted, just heavy debilitating grief amongst the real smiling and laughing that travels instinctively with a parcel of annoying children. Real life is messy and it doesn't take pause for any of us, not even mamas grieving a diagnosis for the little people they call their own. No amount of wishing can turn back the clock to life before. Had I known how easy I had it? Mothering is marked by a grand perspective of hindsight and t ..

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Today

Thursday, March 30, 2017 Adrian H. Wood Comments (4)
Today

Today was the first time I have taken a cab to a doctor's appointment in a great big city. Today was the first time I got to really know the heart of a genetics researcher and as my son noted as being quite significant, the first person we have met to go to the national spelling bee. Today was the first time I saw a neurologist kneel done to speak to Amos after coming to fetch us herself from the waiting room. Today was the first time I heard the word autism and trusted the ..

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Ten Myths about Children with Special Needs

Monday, March 13, 2017 Adrian H. Wood Comments (0)
Ten Myths about Children with Special Needs

1. They are always happy. I have yet to meet someone who is always content. 2. They are no different than anyone else. They are not so different, not in the ways I thought before I called myself a special needs parent. 3. They are different than everyone else. They are really different, every tiny thing is different about them and with them and for them. 4. They are gifts. Gifts. So tricky. All are children are gifts and special needs children bequeath so many gif ..

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Ten Truths About Special Needs Families

Saturday, March 11, 2017 Adrian H. Wood Comments (1)
Ten Truths About Special Needs Families

1. We wouldn't trade our life for anyone else's. It's true. We really wouldn't, though maybe neither would most families. The difference is I may have wondered if that was true of those with special needs designation and so I tell you, we are happy. 2. Our life is very different from yours. I have a hard time remembering what filled my thoughts and time before Amos. Regular life, I guess, the fun and the annoying, though hindsight seems so simple. 3. We are worn out.  ..

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He Kissed Me

Tuesday, March 07, 2017 Adrian H. Wood Comments (6)
He Kissed Me

He's the last boy that shall steal my heart. He's just three years old, not much of a talker, his blond hair is long and shaggy as his mother dreads haircut shenanigans. His eyes are sea green blue and should be behind glasses, but he's strong willed and feisty, so more often than not, he goes without. He's the youngest of four, his arrival four years after a sister and two brothers. His special needs defy the system to which I once subscribed and his life is the unraveling of love and  ..

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